How to Love

Love, by definition, is a good emotion directed towards something someone admires or cherishes.  Many of us love our parents, or sibling, or wife/husband.  The key question is do we understand love and what it really entails.  In order to love, you have to know the basics of what love is, why we have to love, how to love and when to love.

Love can be both good and bad, happy and sad, enormous or small.  The perplexity of it, though, is there really is no clear cut definition of it.  It is relative to each person.  What one person loves, another may despise. In order to get down to the basics of what love is, you should break it down to its most basic component.

Take a good look at yourself.  Examine what you love.  Write it down.  Give the things that you love a rating of 1-10 and rate why you love it.  This will give you an understanding and a mental image.  You will be able to honestly think about love and what it means to you.  If you find that you have love of mostly material things, for example, you may need to sit back and re-evaluate yourself.  Understand that there is more to the world than material things.  Some people don’t have things.  Maybe you can donate some things that you don’t need or volunteer to feed the homeless.  This will give you a glimpse of what you can do to make a difference in someone’s life. 

Ask yourself “do I really love myself?”  We really don’t think about this, but we have to have self-worth and self-understanding, and self-love in order to truly love ourselves.  Begin to look in the mirror and tell yourself “I love you”.  It may seem cliche’, but once this becomes a process that you get used to you, will begin realize your true self-worth and you will begin to practice this in other parts of your life.

Show your love.  This could be anything from hugging or kissing the one you love or writing poems, or buying flowers.  Life is to short to just assume that people know you love them.  When you express that you love someone, it sets off many emotions that gets to a person’s core. 

Give love selflessly.  You should love for the sake of loving.  You shouldn’t expect anything in return.  Even if the love isn’t returned, loving will make a world of difference for you.  Not everyone will be capable of this task completely, but try to make an effort. 

Love is one of the purest, most natural emotions we as humans possess.  If we all would take sometime and really understand it, the world would be a better place.  Let it flow through everything you do and you will be surprised at the outcome of your everyday situations.  Overtime, you will become a better person.  Give love a try and see what happens!!!